We have the classic saying that guys are from Mars and girls are from Venus. Guys always complain that girls are impossible to understand and girls complain that guys are impossible to understand. But by the looks, both sexes are pretty similar and are of the same species. So what’s the problem here?
This question had me researching and reading for weeks. And I came to believe that the core of the problem is the difference in the way that guys and girls think. What it comes down to is that guys think with logic, while girls think with emotions. This seems to be the reason why a guy maybe frustrated with a girl’s sometimes irrational behavior in certain situations.
Girls aren’t very straight forward. In fact, they rarely say what they want. Instead, they use reverse psychology and goes around the bush asking the guy a series of questions till she gets the answer that she wants. However, if she does not get the answer that she wants, she’ll give the guy the “cold shoulder treatment”. Meanwhile, the guy is left clueless as to what has just happened. After which an argument usually takes place, which could have been easily avoided if the girl had just said what she really wanted.
When I asked them why they do this, most girls pretended not to know what I was talking about, or just simply replied with an “I don’t know” (I hate it when they say that!). I mean, just think about it! So many arguments can be avoided if girl just says what she’s actually thinking. But sadly, this is not how things work.
A good example is a couple out for a walk. The girl is thirsty so she says to the guy “would you like to get a drink?” the guy replies “no I’m not thirsty” and keeps going. She would then get mad over this because she didn’t get the answer that she expected, not realizing that what she said wasn’t actually what she was thinking. If she had just said “I’m thirsty, let’s get something to drink” I’m sure the guy would do just what she said without any questions.
This all leads back to the fact that girls think with their emotions, not logic. All guys aren’t psychics and some of them need everything spelled out from A to Z.
Because a girl’s behavior is affected by her emotions and her emotions are affected by her body chemistry and her body chemistry fluctuates from one month to the next, it can be expected that a girl would display such kinds of behavior that is a mystery to guys, whose body does not go through the constant monthly cycle of change.
Since this is genetically built into girls, there is nothing a guy can do but to be aware of it and try to understand it. Sorry guys! Cant help you on that one!
So my conclusion to this matter is that guys need to try harder to figure out what the girls are saying, as most of the time it’s not what they really mean. And Girls! You need to try harder to say what you really want without playing mind games with the guy, if you want the guy to do what you really want.
With all that said, whether this is possible to happen in real life is a completely different story :)
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